Friday, December 23, 2011

What's a Single Sistah to do?

It's Friday night and instead of me being out with the dude that I was talking to, I am typing out this post as a way to vent. I finally break down, well, wait, make time to go out with this boy dude that I am talking to and what does he do??!?!?! STAND ME UP!

I talked to him on Wednesday just to confirm that we were still going out. I am a planner and I wanted to check the weather, how to wear my hair, make-up, shoes, the normal stuff. He confirmed going to happy hour at Mad Mex in Shadyside (or that area). Fine. So, yesterday, I didn't hear from him, so I text him. He texts back. I call him later, just to chit chat. Everything seems fine.

Today, I text him while on lunch for the address of the place and he gives it to me. Nothing else. I stop by CVS to pick up some make-up because I seen it on sale for 75% off. I text him to see what time we were meeting up. He says 9:15. Ok. Now from here, its confusing. He says, We can hook up another time. Just let me know ahead of time when we want to hook up. Huh!? I was so confused. I didn't understand where this was coming from. I ask if this was a bad time and he says tonight is great for me. I am the one that set it up for tonight. We can try another time. Have a good night. Ok, I never said anything about not wanting to go, so I didn't know where this was coming from. I called him and he said that he was talking to his mother, didn't answer, but text me back. Then I ask him what is really going on. He says I was going just didn't feel the vibe, maybe next time will be better. I want to kick it with you but I feel your not interested in me. What does that have to do with us going out as friends?!?!?! He says that we were going out as friends, but we can go at another time. I text him back 'If we were going as friend then what does it matter if I am interested in your or not? See, its just not making sense to me. I really wanted to go but for whatever reason, even though it's a good time for both of us you don't want to go. I was really looking forward to going. I just feel let down and that your not being completely honest with me.'

Nothing back from him; no call or text.

What is a single sistah to do?!?! I don't want to be the angry black woman, but I am upset about this. I could have made other plans or went out somewhere else. Why didn't he say this earlier. I asked him and never got an answer. Although cliche, I think that he was out with another girl.

After being stood up on a Friday night, I am sitting here eating a semi-disgusting steak sandwich and slightly underdone breaded mushrooms from Pizza Milano while watching what TLC calls: Brideday. It is bad that I am being cynical and thinking that maybe I'll never get married?!? Try to stay positive...think positive.


  1. From experience, when a guys stands you up in the way that this guy did, unfortunately, it means that he wasn't interested in you & that it didn't matter if ya'll were going out as "friends" or not; he wasn't feeling you, period.

    I know you don't want to hear this, but this has happened to me so many times it's not even funny. The guy probably was with another woman or planning on going out with another woman & he made plans with you just in case that other woman cancelled.

    Men can be confusing sometimes, I wish they would just say what they really feel instead of speaking in codes & confusing us women. I would have been mad too. But at least you know now that he's not the type of guy that you should want as a potential mate or a friend.

  2. Men are too confusing at times! He was one of the types of dudes that talked in circles thinking that you would get confused and forget what the inital converstation was all about. Why? I don't know. I'm sure that we will cross paths again, but I really don't want to hear anything that he has to say. I kind of got that 7th sense that he was with another girl, or perhaps out with friends, but either way he should have been straight up with me. Seriously.