Thursday Tidbit

It's that time of year again! You know the time...when you vow to loose 30lbs, be more outgoing, find a new job, and the list goes on...and on...and on.

Get your pen and paper out, start writing, and let me know what your 2012 resolutions are. I'll be posting mine shortly.

Words of Wisdom

Taken from sweetsugarspicecandy.tumblr.com via Pinterest

2011 Year in Review

With the year almost over, it's about that time to make new new year's resolutions. But before we kiss 2011 good-bye, sum up your year in 11 words (or less).

My 2011 can be best summed up with:

A year of growth and new challenges with personal truths revealed.

What's your 2011 statement?

Twas the night before Christmas...

and I am sitting here looking at Home Alone and every other cheesey Holiday Movie that comes on Hallmark and Encore. I can't wait til A Christmas Story comes on for 24 hours! I still have to wrap gifts and make a cake and bannana pudding.

Oh wait, paint my nails and find something to wear for church tomorrow. With that being said...Merry Christmas to All and to All a Good Night!

You know it ain't Christmas til...

You know it ain't Christmas til I see the episode of Martin when they get stuck in the bus station on Christmas...with Ms. Jerry, the drunken Santa, and the ignorant clerk at the window! HAHA! I love this episode; it's just not Christmas til I see it!

What's a Single Sistah to do?

It's Friday night and instead of me being out with the dude that I was talking to, I am typing out this post as a way to vent. I finally break down, well, wait, make time to go out with this boy dude that I am talking to and what does he do??!?!?! STAND ME UP!

I talked to him on Wednesday just to confirm that we were still going out. I am a planner and I wanted to check the weather, how to wear my hair, make-up, shoes, the normal stuff. He confirmed going to happy hour at Mad Mex in Shadyside (or that area). Fine. So, yesterday, I didn't hear from him, so I text him. He texts back. I call him later, just to chit chat. Everything seems fine.

Today, I text him while on lunch for the address of the place and he gives it to me. Nothing else. I stop by CVS to pick up some make-up because I seen it on sale for 75% off. I text him to see what time we were meeting up. He says 9:15. Ok. Now from here, its confusing. He says, We can hook up another time. Just let me know ahead of time when we want to hook up. Huh!? I was so confused. I didn't understand where this was coming from. I ask if this was a bad time and he says tonight is great for me. I am the one that set it up for tonight. We can try another time. Have a good night. Ok, I never said anything about not wanting to go, so I didn't know where this was coming from. I called him and he said that he was talking to his mother, didn't answer, but text me back. Then I ask him what is really going on. He says I was going just didn't feel the vibe, maybe next time will be better. I want to kick it with you but I feel your not interested in me. What does that have to do with us going out as friends?!?!?! He says that we were going out as friends, but we can go at another time. I text him back 'If we were going as friend then what does it matter if I am interested in your or not? See, its just not making sense to me. I really wanted to go but for whatever reason, even though it's a good time for both of us you don't want to go. I was really looking forward to going. I just feel let down and that your not being completely honest with me.'

Nothing back from him; no call or text.

What is a single sistah to do?!?! I don't want to be the angry black woman, but I am upset about this. I could have made other plans or went out somewhere else. Why didn't he say this earlier. I asked him and never got an answer. Although cliche, I think that he was out with another girl.

After being stood up on a Friday night, I am sitting here eating a semi-disgusting steak sandwich and slightly underdone breaded mushrooms from Pizza Milano while watching what TLC calls: Brideday. It is bad that I am being cynical and thinking that maybe I'll never get married?!? Try to stay positive...think positive.

A Kardashian for Khristmas...

Kardashian Kollection Women's Lace Button Up Shirt With Oversized Neck Bow

The Kardashians are known for their signature style, but if you have checked out the stuff that they have on QVC and Sears you might not see what all the hype is about. For some reason, the clothing just looks cheap, but at high price.

Well, while surfing my favorite blogs, I came across a cute, sophisticated lace shirt. I had to know where it came from. And to my surprise it was from the Kardashian Kollection from Sears! Just to let ya'll know I have really been feeling Sears and K-Mart lately--cheap and fashionable. 

This particular shirt I had never seen in stores. But I absolutely have to have in the nude color. I can just see the styling options now. Hopefully I will get it for Christmas...

Price: $56.99
Sizes: L-XL (as of 12/12/2011)
Colors: Black or Nude

Love the Shirt, wanna get it? Shop Sears Here.

Purple Snowflakes...

As much as I hate to admit this, I went back to the GAP for the holiday season. I needed the extra cash since my primary job couldn't afford to give us the normal 3% raise. Every Christmas season, for the past 4 years I heard a song called 'Purple Snowflakes'. I always thought that it was by Jimmy Hendrix--just because it was called Purple Snowflakes. Get it purple snowflakes, *clearing my throat* purp. Anyway, after some googling, I found out that it was by the legendary Marvin Gaye! I should have known this because Jimmy Hendrix never sung a ballet and there isn't a guitar to be found. Aside from This Christmas by Donny Hathaway, this is one of my favorites!

Enjoy!

Spiritual Sunday....

Another Words of Wisdom on Spiritual Sunday...

In Anticipation...

In anticipation of me getting my passport so that  I can cross it off of my 360 in 365 list, I went out and made a small purchase. I brought a Coach Passport Case Holder! So when I am whipping out my passport in Europe and Africa, I'll be stylish. Oh and did I mention that it was on sale?!?!?! I went Christmas shopping at Tanger Outlets and had to visit the Coach Factory store. They were giving out a 30% off coupon at the door, after some careful contemplation, I settled on it for the low price of $21.34. A small price to pay to be one step closer to my dream.

Welcome to the Good Life!

My cousin wanted to go out to the premier spot in Pittsburgh, Savoy. All of my other friends have been there before, except me. We went out for dinner and this is a review my experience.

Food: How can I put this nicely...I've had better. I got the Chicken and Waffles with corn pudding and spinach. The chicken was your typical buttermilk chicken fried to a golden brown, nothing really special. I will say that the corn pudding--although it was only a teaspoon--was great! The spinach was just that, spinach. I couldn't say that they flavors or taste of the food was something that I had never experienced before. And since I didn't even mention the waffles, that goes to show you how memorable they were. My bill was $42.90 (yikes!)

Music: There is a restaurant part (lower floor) and there is the lounge area (upstairs). I'm not really sure who the DJ was, but he was spinning the hits! I think there was different music on each floor. It was mainly hip hop and R&B being played.

Drinks: I am not big on drinking, but I did partake in a beverage. I got the Tropical martini. It was sweet, fruity, and went down smooth. And after the owner brought us a round, they tasted even better. Without the complimentary round the average drink is $12. This most definitely is a place that you either sip slow or go to Art's before or after.

Ambiance: I will admit that I thought that the place would be bigger than what I actually seen on TV. It's more of a long, narrow space, not expansive. The place is decorated very nice, its clean, and has a modern look and feel to it. But, the lounge is another story. It was very hard to get around due to the bar, couches, and VIP area. We went on a Saturday night and there was barely room to move around in the lounge area. You cannot dance; there is no designated dance floor.

Overall Experience: I had a good experience. The food is way overpriced, as well as the drinks.The service is excellent. They offer valet, so you don't have to worry about finding parking in the strip or walking a long way in your killer heels. I would return there, but maybe for appetizers.

Outfit: Dress: H&M Tights: Fishnets from Target  Makeup: Naked Palette eyeshadow, MAC NW45 concealer, Mary Kay Bronze 2 face powder, ELF cream liner, Loreal million lashes in carbon black, Miliani Luminoso Blush, and last, but not least a dupe for Up the Amp, Covergirl Divine lipstick.

*Unable to post pictures due to not having permission from various person(s)

WWYD...

What would you do if you seen your friends signifigant other out with someone else?  You seen them being a little too close and touching in a more than friendly way.


Would you tell them? Why or Why not? Do you feel like it would make a difference in their relationship? Could a friend possibly see you as a hater by telling them what you saw?

I'm really interested in hearing from both men and women.

Words of Wisdom on Spiritual Sunday



 Taken from littledaisymay.blogspot.com via pinterest

Hey! I'm a little late posting for Spiritual Sunday, but I didn't find anything that really inspired me to post. I actually was hoping that I would be lead to something about forgiveness. Instead, I was lead to this website called pinterest. While browsing the website, which by the way has a waiting list for new members...yeah, you have to be invited. I came across a lot  postings and pictures and decided to start a series of post involving them. Hopefully you'll be inspired and motivated by these words of wisdom.

The Cooking Chronicles

Today, I was reminiscing on one of the potlucks that we used to have at my old job. I kind of missed it and decided to make a meal dedicated to it. There were always two things that were constant at the potluck:  Ham BBQ and Haluski.

What I prepared was similar to what my old co-workers used to cook, but only I put my own spin on it and more flavor. There were a couple of reasons why these dishes were a staple on potluck day- they are super cheap to make and can feed a crowd for like pennies a serving. What's cheaper than cabbage, noodles, cooked ham and bread!?!?!

Sorry for the bad picture; have to get a new camera

I wouldn't call this a recipe, but more like a guideline to be tweaked to your liking.

Ham BBQ

Time: 30 minutes
Servings: 4

1lb of ham, shaved
1 bottle of Sweet Baby Ray's BBQ sauce
Onion, chopped
Green Pepper, chopped
1 small clove of garlic, chopped
1 tomato, chopped
olive oil
black pepper
salt (depending on your ham, optional)
4 hamburger buns
banana peppers (garnish, optional)

In a sauce pan, heat olive oil and saute garlic, onion, and green pepper until soft, about 4 minutes. Add the ham and BBQ sauce. Season with salt and pepper. Simmer for 15 minutes. During the last 10 minutes of cooking add chopped tomato. Serve on hamburger buns, topped with banana peppers.

Haluski (Cabbage and Noodles)

This is not your typical haluski! It's more line a fried cabbage/noodle mix. You can adjust accordingly, but its good to me!

Time: 45 minutes
Servings: 4

1 small cabbage, shredded
1 small onion, sliced
1 clove of garlic, finely chopped
5 tablespoons of butter
2 tablespoons of olive oil
1/2 cup of chicken broth or water
Half a package of egg noodles
Salt
Pepper
Paprika

Boil water and prepare egg noodles according to package.

While the noodles are cooking, in a skillet heat olive oil and butter. Add the onion and garlic, saute until soft, about 3 minutes. Add the cabbage and cook for 15 minutes stirring occasionally. Add the chicken broth and cover for another 20-25 minutes. Add the noodles to the cabbage alone with a pat of butter if needed. Serve hot.

Thursday Tidbit...

I love YouTube. It has changed my life. I've learned how to do a smokey eye, created some great recipes, gotten some great fashion tips, but I wish that people would stop posting 12 minute videos about things that take 5 minutes! I understand that there are times when a lengthy video is appropriate, but I get slightly bored. Maybe I have a touch of ADD.

Relationship Guru: Whatever happened to just being friends?

Alright, so after the whole 'Just In Case: Take Care' ordeal, I am back out in the game! Well, kinda. I recently linked back up with a friend. He found me on facebook, we exchanged numbers, and have been taking ever since. Recently, he has been asking me some questions that lead me to believe that he wants a lil' more than just being friends.  Just the mention of marriage, kids, relationships makes me a uncomfortable. While texting one another, he asks me if I can possibly see a relationship with him? Do I find him attractive? Ok, let me just give ya'll the back story. We met like 15 years ago. We really don't know one another, never dated, and I haven't seen him in person in about...cricket...8 years?  I asked him where did this come from? He said that he was just curious because he can see himself being in a relationship with me. Yeah, me. Slightly-broken-and-bitter-celibate-easily scared away-with-the-mention-of-commitment-on-the-fence-about-wanting-kids-me.

I am not saying that it would never happen with him, but we haven't even hung out together to see if its something that would even happen. I'm not really sure where this all came from. I think that its funny when a guy shows that they are vulnerable just like women, and I am starting to hear about it more and more from different guys.

Whatever happened to just being friends with someone...taking things slow?

Spiritual Sunday

I am still reading Weird: Because Normal Isn't Working by Craig Groeschel and as I stated in a previous Spiritual Sunday post, I will be doing a review on it. I'm about half way through it and I found the Time chapters of the book a bit dry, but the relationship chapters...whoa! More to come =)

Thursday Tidbit...

How you doin'?!?!?! I liked Wendy Williams, half-cousin-in-my-head, alot better when she was on the radio. I am not knocking her moving up to the next level, but she was alot more unsensored when on the radio. She used to ask people the questions that everyone wanted to know the answer too...not the watered down, commercialized question she asked now. I remember I would listen to her radio show at work over the internet and be cracking up at my desk! I still like the talk show, but just not as much as the radio show.

The Mac Counter and Me...

This weekend I went out in search of two lipsticks: Up the Amp and Ruby Woo both by MAC. But of course I checked out dupes online, just in case I wasn't in love with the lipsticks. I went to the MAC counter at the mall that I felt most comfortable. Let me just say that I do not like going to the MAC counter at the Ross Park mall because I feel like they ignore African Americans at that particular counter. I can't say at all of the counters in Macy's, but I have had 2 bad experiences there. Anywoo, I go to the MAC counter at Robinson Mall, and was greeted by two sales women...girls...broads. They one girl was working on a client and the other one was just standing around. I politely tell the one that is standing around that I would like to try on Up the Amp. She obliges. After the application, I tell her that I HATE it (insert fake laughs here)! It just wasn't what I expected it to be. While this is going on, a woman walks up and states that she was looking for green eyeshadow. The girl working with me immediately grabs three shadows and rushes over to help the lady. I turn around and say that I wanted to try on Ruby Woo. She politely sanitize the lipstick, hands it to me and says 'Are you ok applying it yourself?' Is that lady you about to help ok with applying the eyeshadow herself. I then say, straight from the tube?!!?!? This broad hands me lip brush from her brush hip/roll thingy. Stunned, I say you are going to have to apply this for me. She does it, but promptly tells me if I need anything to let her know because she will be over with another customer.

Ok, here is my gripe. I would have more than likely brought Ruby Woo, and possibly some foundation. Resulting in a commission for the sales person. Instead, I politely walk away empty handed. What made her think that I wasn't going to buy something? Sure, I wonder aimlessly looking to jog my memory about things that I have seend on YouTube and putting together looks in my mind, but that is no reason to leave me to work on another customer. It wasn't like I was done with shopping or looking. This is normally the point that say 'Don't make me pull out my platinum card and blind you'. I'm a changed person and trying not to be like my momma. I cannot help but see a pattern forming at all MAC counters around the Western PA area: ignorance. Perhaps they don't know how much African American woman spend at stores in an average year, stimulate the economy and set trends. The Asians know, which is why there is a BSS in every neighborhood.

Have you ever felt like you didn't receive the best customer service at the MAC counter? I know that it isn't just me.

New Fall Shows...

This post is waaaayyyy overdue! I would have posted sooner, but I wanted to be sure that I would be hanging in with these shows for the long haul. Without further delay, my picks for fall shows...

Two Broke Girls: It's one of those sitcoms that makes laugh like once per show. I cannot pinpoint what makes me like this show so much or why I remind myself (and cable box) to watch it ever Monday.

Love & Hip Hop: Drama, drama, and more drama. Better than Basketball Wives and back for a second season with new cast members. It just started, so I will have to update later.

IRT: Deadliest Roads: Get that look off your face! I don't know how, or why I look at this show, but I do. Possibly the most boring show ever, but entertaining at the same time. From Hugh who goes it alone, to new partners Tim and Tino and the narrow roads of Bolivia...yeah, its that boring.

Revenge: At first I thought that this show was going to be really predictable, especially since its works itself backwards, but I was wrong. This show is so good to me that I watch it on OnDemand. But the only this is that I cannot see this shows plot lasting more than 1-2 seasons.

ABG (Awkward Black Girl): As seen on Youtube, one of the funniest webisode series that I have ever seen! The best 10 minutes on the web.

Milk and Honey: I learned about this web based series on another blog that I frequent. I watched the first webisode, but haven't seen any other ones since. I want see what's going to happen next.

Honorable Mentions...

Up All Night: It has its funny moments, I like Mya Rudolph, and it fills a void on Wednesday before Revenge comes on. Whitney: It comes on after The Office, if the TV is still on I'll watch it. I must admit that I am really missing 30 Rock.

Got some favorite shows? Comment below and let me know!

Spiritual Sunday

Normally on this blog I do not talk about my career or work for several reasons. But recently I have been dealing with some changes there and it makes me uncomfortable. Because of this I was feeling really down, defeated, and discouraged. It wasn't so much a change with what I do work-wise, more so people and their attitudes. I had been talking to the people in my enter circle, praying more, and just talking to the Lord asking for guidance, peace, and asking for today to better than the last. With the increase in my spiritual faith, I thought that things would get better, but instead they got worst.

I thought that it was something that I was doing wrong until I  watched T.D. Jakes' sermon on Secret Agents for Change. It was like it he was talking to me and my situation at work. I truly felt like God was putting this in place for me to see. During this sermon he talked about Pharaoh, the Israelites and making bricks without straw. He said that frustration is not the devil. What? How can this be? I don't understand. Bishop Jakes continued to say frustration will lead to a great reward. This challenge that I am facing will lead to a greater reward and develop me as a person. If I believe that through all of this frustration, a blessing will come. He knows the day that it all started and the day that it all will end; This too shall pass.

The message was so powerful that I was taking notes so that I could share it with you! Although I'm no T.D. Jakes, I invite you to watch the sermon so that you can be encouraged and most importantly be blessed!

Secret Agents of Change Telecast

Happy Thanksgiving!

Just in Case, Take Care: Part III

It's a normal Monday night, and I am looking at one of my new shows, Two Broke Girls, and the episode is about Max misinterpreting one of her friends gestures as more than what they are. She ends up kissing him in the streets...while his girlfriend is right behind him. (Click here for full episode). He confronts her and she asks him why didn't he tell her. He said that is was because he didn't know what do with his feelings for her and his girlfriend. Sign? Maybe.

My whole thing is that we've been friends for years, and yes we have even been intimate before. I've started my period and messed up his sheets, he's walked in on me having sex, we just have one of those relationships friendships. Did I think that it was weird that he came into town and didn't meet-up? Yeah, but what can I say. Is it weird that he hung with mutual friends and never bother to call me? I had to hear about it from them. But you couldn't call me? Could he have been hiding some feelings for me and didn't know how he would react when he seen me? Maybe. At the time that he came into town I didn't know that he had a girlfriend. To make matters worst, I seen a picture of him and his girl on his facebook page. Did I feel some type of way? Yeah, I did, but they look good together.

I'm at the point where I think that I need to just stay off of facebook. You see stuff that you don't need to see. I'm a realists and I know that the reason/way that I feel about him and this whole situation is because I was reading into things to much and because of the intimacy that we once had my feelings are distorted. I brought this on myself; he doesn't know how I feel about it and whatever feelings that he may have towards me, he can keep it to himself. To be honest, I think that how I feel about him is just a knee-jerk reaction that I had because I think that him having someone is going to effect what we have. Which isn't much, just open communication. I shared stuff with him that I share with my closest girl-friends. Why couldn't he do the same?

To be a good friend, I am going to keep my word and proof the resume and send it back to him...but after that, like Drake's new album, Take Care.

Afterthoughts: I read everything that I wrote and really sat down and thought about it, and I realize that the posts pertaining to Just in Case, Take Care are my initial reactions. Now that I have had time to think about things--I mean really think about them--I overreacted. Now that the initial shock and raw emotions have passed,  I am fine. Honestly. Writing things out and venting about a situations helps to put things into perspective and see things for what they really are.

Spiritual Sunday

With Thanksgiving fast approaching, I decided to post something regarding Thanksgiving. Enjoy and be blessed!

11 And this is the law of the sacrifice of peace offerings, which he shall offer unto the LORD.12 If he offer it for a thanksgiving, then he shall offer with the sacrifice of thanksgiving unleavened cakes mingled with oil, and unleavened wafers anointed with oil, and cakes mingled with oil, of fine flour, fried . 13 Besides the cakes, he shall offer for his offering leavened bread with the sacrifice of thanksgiving of his peace offeringsLeviticus 7:11-13 KJV

Just in Case, Take Care: Part II

Fast forward a couple of conversations and texts, he asks me to proof his resume. Sure. Friends do that for one another. Alright, the next things catches me completely off guard. He states that he would consider moving to PA for a job. Ok, move from a diverse, melting pot, brimming with more opportunity than here, back to PA. (This may actually be the point where I took things a lil' too literally). Oh huh, if that is what you want to do. Now before I get into this next part just know that it's funny how things come out right without you even prying--and just another reason why I feel like social media networks have corrupted our communication skills. So, on a IM conversation, we get into a conversation about sex. He asks me about my celibacy journey and the conversation goes from there. During this conversation he states that he gets in on a regular basis. Really? This is different. I ask

Me:You have a woman?

Him:Yes.

Me:Is it serious?

Him:Yes.

Me:Why didn't you tell me? Change you facebook status? Something that shows that you are seriously talking to someone

Him:You know that I like to keep stuff low-key.

Me:I think that you should have told me.

Mind you, we talk late night, text one another, all the things that if your partner finds they might be like who the bleep is this bleep texting you and you talking to all the time?!?! At this point, my ego is slightly bruised. Its my fault that I read too much into our friendship and that I possibly developed feelings and they didn't surface he told me this and a couple of waves of jealousy ran through me.

The conversation continues and I try to keep it together like I am not phased.

Me: So, what if you get a job up here. You can't just leave her.

Him: I'll bring her with me.

In my mind, I am like ok, this is too weird. I need to cut this short and hit him with the 'take care'. Basically 'take care' means if we talk again, fine, if not, that's fine too.I wish you no ill-will or harm; I wish you the best.

Trying to end on a positive note, I tell him that I will review his resume send it back to him. I try to end the conversation, but we go on a little more about random stuff.

Helater contacted me on IM and ignored him. He sent an email. I ignored him. It's to the point where I stay off of the computer during our normal chat session hours and refrain myself from sending my normal random texts during the work day

To be continued...

Click here to read Part I.

Just in Case, Take Care: Part I

You see it all the time in movies. Two people of the opposite sex who are friends make a pact that if one of them isn't married or in a serious, committed relationship by the time they are 30, then they'll get married. It's called a Just-in: Just in case (fill-in the blank). In real life, people have a just-in, but you may not call it that. I had a just-in...or so I thought.

Perhaps I was living in a dream world, or reading into our frequent conversations way too much. Either way, I feel some type of way. Although we live hundreds of miles away from one another, he came to this area and failed to call me to meet-up. Not even on no nasty type stuff either. I thought that was odd when I heard from other people, and facebook, that he was in the area. When we spoke again, he stated that he was really busy while up here. Whatever. I thought that we were better than that.

To be continued....

Note: Originally this was going to be one long post, venting about an issue that I had with a friend. After careful consideration, I decided to break it up into three parts. I think that once I get to the end of it my feelings may have changed some and it will actually play out in real time. This is not a work of fiction--true life

Product Review: Nivea Cream Oil Body Wash

One of the best parts of the day for me is taking a shower. It's the one time of the day when I don't have to be bothered with anyone, I can't hear my phone ring  and its just some short lived me time. Since I am really into skin care, I will splurge every now and again on some good body wash. About 2 months ago, I clipped a coupon for Nivea Cream Oil Body wash. I am already a fan of the lotion, so the body wash must be good.

 

From the first time I used it, I could tell that it was good; It was a creamy lather, smelled good, felt moisturizing, and it was cleansing. Now most of the time when you use a body wash, you have to put on lotions and moisturizers to have soft skin, and for it to stay soft. Not with this body wash! You can forget to put on lotion and you will  not be ashy--at all! Whatever they put in this stuff is good. I suggest this to anyone who is looking for a new body wash for the winter. Oh, how can I forget the price. I got the first bottle for $1.99 with a $2.00 off coupon. So even without coupon you are looking at $3.99 at participating retailers.

Spiritual Sunday

Photo by: Donna Kelly via Flickr

In my random spending, I went to the Chrisitian Family Store and browsed some of the books there. The store was also having a half off sale. I came across a book called Weird: Because Normal Isn't Working by Craig Groeschel. I flipped through it and to my surprise there were some parts that really stood out to me.

Book Description:

Normal people are stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Many of their relationships are, at best, strained and, in most cases, just surviving. Even though we live in one of the most prosperous places on earth, normal is still living paycheck to paycheck and never getting ahead. In our oversexed world, lust, premarital sex, guilt, and shame are far more common than purity, virginity, and a healthy married sex life. And when it comes to God, the majority believe in him, but the teachings of scripture rarely make it into their everyday lives. Simply put, normal isn't working. Groeschel's WEIRD views will help you break free from the norm to lead a radically abnormal (and endlessly more fulfilling) life.

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I brought the book and plan to read a chapter a night until I am done. If anyone is interested in having a discussion about the book, just comment below. I'll do a book review on it when I finish.

There is no need to argue, people just don't understand...

Have you ever tried to express something to someone that just isn't on the same level as you? Last week while on my blissful, week-long vacation, I experimented with my natural hair. I went out brought some new conditioner, "Yes to Carrots", which was great. Also got some Shea Moisture Curl Smoothie stuff and was ready to go. With my twists out and YouTube at my beacon call, I embarked on my first natural hair style. Oh wait, first I did a bentonite clay mask treatment, which helped clarify the care and help with the detangling.

Alright, after washing, my hair wasn't exactly what I expected. I am assuming that due to my bi-weekly wash and presses caused some severe heat damage to my tresses. Having transitioned for over a year and wearing twists for three months, I thought that I would have more 'virgin' hair on my head. Instead, there were massive amounts of straight hair--everywhere. I pressed on. I decided that after looking at a couple of YouTube videos that I was going to attempt a twist and curl. Basically, twisting my hair then curling it around a rod. Simple, right?

After letting my hair air dry for 24hrs.+, the results were, well, lack luster. I had to do something with the crazy naps and curls that I had going on. The relaxed ends curled really well, but the roots were nappy with no definition. So being the creative being that I am, I attempted several things but was unsuccessful. Finally, I thought about the one thing that will save a bad hair day---a hat! I never wear hats, but I was borderline desperate. I found the grey beanie that I brought from Forever 21 and gathered the back of my hair into a twist and put it on. I left the bangs out in the front, kind of a free spirited look, with two sideburn tendrils. No too bad.

Now when I went to get my hair done on Thursday, I wore my hair like this. My hair dresser was like 'Oh you trying something new...you wanted to wear an afro...did you want to see how it would look natural?' Umh, yeah what's wrong with that? The way that she questioned me about the style just made me feel like we must not be on the same page hair wise and uncomfortable. She later went on to ask me what I did to it? What did I do to it? It was like I had an alien sitting on my hair. Now, although it was frizzy at the top, one can clearly see that it was a set of some kind...the ends of the curls were defined. I sent a picture, the one here to my friends and they saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, but then again, who knows. She later went on after she got done with it, to attempt to schedule me for normal wash and press in two weeks. I told her that I would have to get back to her. She casually stated that she had other clients and may not have the regular slot open. I said, Ok, I will be in touch.

If you are still reading this, you may be wondering what are you really talking about. First, taking a step out and attempting do something with my natural hair was BIG! (see 360 in 365 page) My friends were supportive and encouraging, but not so much from my hair dresser.  Also, here in Southwestern PA, natural hair isn't as accepted as some places, like Philly. I wasn't arguing with my hair dresser about anything, but I feel like she just doesn't understand my hair journey and what I am trying to accomplish. I also think that she is looking out for herself; having a steady client shelling out $40 every other week adds up. I am trying to get away from the heat and constant manipulation of my hair which means less money for her.  I just want to get it to a point where its completely natural. Perhaps, I should have been more up front with her and state that I was going back to protective styling and not getting my hair done as much. Especially since in 2012, I am attempting to be more a budget and save. There is no need to argue, people just don't understand...

Late Night Rambling..

Tonight I let my cousin talk me into going to a concert. But it wasn't just any concert. It was a concert held at a sandwich shop. Yeah, you read that right. It was in the lounge above a sandwich shop. Now, I don't mind supporting local talent, but when you pop tags off of clothes, put a full face of makeup, and sweat out your $40 blowout, I would expect for it to be at an actual lounge. This concert was held at MyCity Subs and Lounge, which I believe is a front for something. What, I don't know. Aside from the [illegal] liquor that was being served, the horrible acoustics,  smoke *cough* permeating your clothes and hair, and the stalkers (Yes, I had two stalkers), it was a decent night for $10. It was better than sitting at home watching the Braxtons...I think.

Bra Shopping...Sigh.

I am constantly looking for the perfect bra. I don't know what it is, or how this came to be but its an obsession of mine. Every store that I go into, I am looking...and especially for a deal. Last week, I was on a mission to return this shirt to the Gap and come right back out. Well, inbetween going to Sephora and trying on a couple of polishes, which I would like to suggest Traffic-Stopper Copper Top Coat by OPI, I came across a store called SOMA. Not quite Victoria's Secrect, but they had a 30% off sign in front. Upon walking into the store I was greated but what I like to call 'granny-panties'. Ok, no big deal, take me to the sales. I walked back and the sales woman asked me if it was the 'vanishing back' bra that brought me in. Huh? Just show me the sales. Anywoo, she showed me to the sales rack, which had a couple of bras on it, one of them being the 'vanishing back' bra that she spoke of. Now, granted I was the youngest person in the store right now; everyone else was at least 40 years plus. I took the best printed bra that I could find and tried it on. OMG! This was the best bra that I ever tried on!


Let me point out some of the best features of this bra. The material is GREAT. It's like the Victoria's Secrets Angel bra from like 4 years ago, but only with full coverage. It had just enough padding to cover up some of those embarrassing moments. It was a front closure. Conveient. The straps are adjustable, but you adjust them in the front! That's right, no more guessing if you have both of the straps in the right place. Streching your arms to do it or taking it off and adjusting. Its really supportive, for those of us that need it. Just great.

On the other hand, some of the cons of the bra is it reminds you of a sports bra from the back. I think that its because of the 'vanishing back' selling feature. Also, I am not really sure that I needed my back to be smoothed or that it really works. Ummh, the price. It was originally $50, but with all of the discounts, I ended up paying around $25. Not too bad, but not great either.

Overall,  I would buy them again, still cheaper than some of the Victoria's Secret ones. Don't let the look of the store fool you. Yeah, it's for the slightly more mature crowd, but if you are looking for a good bra, go to SOMA. If you are looking for some cute panties, go elsewhere.

Website: Soma Intimates

If you want to get married...

So this morning, I was talking to my best friend on phone and as usual we got on the topic of relationships and marriage. She said that she found this article If You Desire to Get Married, Here Is How to Get a Good Man. I pulled it up and read it. To my surprise it had a lot good tips, but most of which I already know, practice, or just choose to ignore.

I invite all of you to read the article and leave your thoughts. I am interested in how many [single] woman practice this. And for those of you that may be married already, did you pray for you husband?

Start Wearing Your Good Panties!

Finally it’s all over with. I was dealing with a huge inspection at my job and was only focused on that for the past month. Now that it’s over I can finally relax and catch up with some of my favorite blogs. I stumbled across an article on a blog that I normally do not frequent, but the article got me to thinking. The name of the article is Stop Saving Your Good Panties for Later. This article basically boils down to two things: self-sabotaging and denying oneself happiness.

If you read the article it talks about how women will buy new panties, but will tell herself that she has to wait for a special occasion to wear them and continuously cling onto the old, ratty panties that she is used to. I am guilty of this. Not just with panties, but with everything. Clothes, makeup, hair, my house, decorating, the list goes on. Right now, I have about 8 bags of new clothes on the floor in my bedroom just waiting for the ‘perfect time’ to wear them. I have several pictures and wall hangings sitting on the floor staring me in the face as I type this, just waiting to be hung up when I buy a house. I went out and brought that highly-praised Urban Decay Naked Palate and have yet to use it. I’m waiting on the right time. You see the pattern that is forming, and so do I.

I’ve been trying to break myself out of this, but for some reason it’s really hard to do. Everything with me is always ‘When the time is right’. After reading this, what if the right time never comes along. Everything will just sit there, wasting away. I now realize that this is something that I have to change and perhapse it will make some breakthroughs in my life. For me, I will go and buy new stuff more as a way of therapy. I’ll look in the closet and say ‘I have nothing to wear’, yet there are brand new items right at my feet. In a way, for me, it’s more than denying myself happiness.

I am now making it my personal mission to stop saving my good panties for later, wearing all of my new clothes on the weekend, and wearing make-up every time I go out.

Gone for a Minute...

Hey! I was gone for a minute, but I promise that once everything at work calms down. I will be back to my regularly scheduled posts. Also, I am trying to figure out exactly what direction that I am going with this blog. I know that I wanted to do this to chronical the journey to my 30th birthday and the things that I wanted to accomplish, but I am having second thoughts. Just trying to sort some things out.

Relationship Guru: Love and Other Drugs

There is nothing that can fix a broken heart. I find that music is one of the best ways to get over a lost love. Below are a few songs from a playlist that has helped me mend my broken heart and kick my ‘narcotic’ habits.

Where do the Good Go by Tegan and Sara

Alright, not quite R&B, or blue-eyed soul for that matter, but the message is the same. I discovered this song while working at The Gap. Tune out the beat, and their mundane voices and what are you left with? Poignant lyrics.

Where do you go with your broken heart in tow? What do you do with a leftover you? How do you know when to let go? Where do the good go?

No Happy Holidays by Mary J. Blige

The Queen of Hip Hop Soul in her earlier days in every woman’s CD player at one time or another. I could have a whole CD posted up here, but I chose one her lesser-known songs: Happy Holidays. For any of you that have ever been ‘the only other woman’ this song is for you.

Half-Crazy by Musiq

Ok, this may be one of my favorite songs, but when I was going thru it I just put in on repeat and let it play. There were times when I felt like I was going half-crazy. Not doing my hair, dressing like a bum, not eatin’, and slingin’ snot. Don’t no body know how I feel but Musiq!

Piece of My Heart by Janis Joplin

Classic. Not something that you would expect to be on my playlist, but there is something about this song that just relieves the stress of the break-up. It’s like after you have accepted it, yeah he got a piece of my heart, just go ahead and break it, go on n!gga take it! You are at your angry black woman stage at this point.

Enough. Listening to Broken Hearted on Rhapsody. Check it out!

Got your own brokenhearted playlist? Share it!

Cuddle Buddies...

Today is, as my assistant would say, good cuddle-buddy weather. As much as I hate to admit it, he’s right. The weather has cooled down, you can wear your favorite scarf, leaves are slowly falling and there is the autumn chill in the air. This is one of those days where curling up with a hot bowl of soup and crusty bread can only do but so much for a woman. There is something about lying with a man, in your favorite PJ’s, with your super soft throw that’s just peaceful. You don’t have to worry about your hair or makeup. Simple Carmex and a ponytail will suffice.

My lack of a cuddle-buddy makes me wonder…Where are all the cuddle-buddies at?

Relationship Guru?! Who Me?

Without having a successful relationship in life, thus far, recently I have found myself being a relationship guru for some of my friends. It seems like everyone wants to talk to me, ask me my opinion, or spill their heart out to me. Don’t get me wrong, there are very few things that I haven’t experienced while being in a relationship. Some of the experiences I only share with certain people or when there is a need to illustrate and relate to them. Then, there are those relationship experiences that I keep to me, myself, and I.

I think that one of the main reasons why friends chose to confide in me is because of my unbiased opinion of the situations. Or it could be because I am good listener. I try to listen more than I talk. Now, there are those times when I get a little bogged down with everyone else’s problems and just want to vent about what I have going on. Which brings me to this, as of this current moment, I am very much single and celibate so I don’t have a lot of relationship baggage with me. I am comfortable with who I am. So, when people tell me about their relationship problems I’m not the friend that is jealous because one of my friends have a man and I don’t . I’m not the friend constantly telling them to leave them alone, because I have been there before and most importantly I don’t want their man for myself. Maybe it is because when I was in f’ed up relationships all of my friends were there for me and this is just payback. Whatever the reason, I’ll enjoy my time as a self-proclaimed relationship guru.

Forever Grateful.

As I sit here going between Good Morning America: 9/11 and 102 Minutes That Changed America, there are tears that are slowly rolling down my cheeks. The horrific 911 calls of people desperately trying to get help; the stores of the jumpers, who would rather fall 70 floors than perish; and the images of frantic people. I can't help but get emotional.

I remember that morning. I was in my room getting ready for class when there was breaking news of a plane hitting the world trade center. My mouth hung open as I heard the news. I hate to admit it, but I thought about using this as a reason to get out of going to class. I thought about all of my classmates who were from New York, still had family living there, even working in Manhattan. Moments later, word of a plane hitting the Pentagon broke. Then the news that hit closest to home, Flight 93, just 150 miles away, apparently high jacked, crashed into a field in Shanksville. At this point fear took over.

Although today, I shed about the same amount of tears that I did 10 years ago, its apparent that the same feelings and emotions still hold true after all this time. My mind still wonders what could have possibly be done to stop this? Are we any safer now than 10 years ago? Did a plane really hit the towers? Was the government behind this, and using this as a way to start a war? Was this prophesied in the bible? So many unanswered questions. Today many of these questions are still unanswered, people have their theories and beliefs. We, as Americans, are on high alert of anyone with an Arab/Muslim sounding name, the man sitting next to you on the plane with a Sunni, dressed in a garb.

Ten years ago, America and our lives were changed forever.



My heart goes out to all of the men and woman who lost their lives. We'll Never Forget.

Procrastination is like Masturbation...

So, its Saturday night and I am sitting here writing a post about 'Procrastination being like Masturbation' and looking at my guilty pleasure Awkward. How did this all start? Well, back in college, during one of those hazy nights that involved Barcardi 151 in the all boys dorm, I came across a sheet of paper posted on the wall. It said: Procrastination is like Masturbation, you always end up getting screwed. Not quite Langston Hughes, but poetic, none the less.

Which brings us to this. A Saturday night when I thought that thought that I would be at the movies falling asleep or pretending to be into whatever movie that I would be watching with a dude that I really don't trust. Whew, that was a mouthful. Not that I would have ended up getting screwed by him at the end of the night (see celibacy vlog coming soon), but he probably would have tried. Where are all the good men at???!?!?!? Sigh.

Anyway, instead of doing something on the 360 in 365 list, or at least researching to attempt to cross something off of that list, I decided to check out random Youtube videos on knitting. Yeah. That's right, knitting. For what? I am not sure. I think that its just another way for me to procrastinate in doing what I need to do. I really don't need to know how to knit...I need to perfect my calligraphy, so that I can possibly make some extra money by doing it. After watching the video on Youtube, I actually contemplated driving to Wal-Mart and get some knitting supplies. Now, there are a million other things that I need and should be doing, including work for my job, finishing my Limited application, washing clothes, cleaning up, and the list can go on and on.

In the end of not doing anything really today, I will end up getting screwed on Monday night when I am trying to finish all of the work for my job, wash clothes, clean up for the week, and all of the other miscellaneous things that I should have done today with my free time.

This post has nothing to do with masturbation

Friday Night Beauty...

Alright, its Friday! And I am so glad that its the weekend. Wait, its a 3 day weekend! Not to copy off of QVC's Friday night beauty segment called 'Friday Night Beauty', but I decided to relax and unwind with my own homemade beauty treatments. There is nothing better than having a PMS pizza (Pepperoni, Mushroom, and Sausage), a full night of TLC's 'Why am I not married, but when I do I want a dress/wedding/party like that' shows, and youtube videos filled with useless knowledge and ideas.

Up first: Blackhead Elimination

So, if you search how to get rid of blackheads, you will find 1000's of videos of how to get rid of them. I chose the method that involves two things: toilet paper and egg whites. I always have toilet paper, and of course I still have eggs from that whole lemon bar fiasco.

All you have to do it is beat the egg whites until frothy. Apply to face or areas you would like to de-blackhead. Apply toilet paper and more egg whites until it sticks to your face. Easy right.

The results: Now, if you like the Biore Pore Perfect strips, then you may like this method. It doesn't hurt as bad, but I am not sure about the effectiveness of it. I would say that it is a milder form of what the Biore strips can do. Can I see and feel a difference? Yeah! I can even see some of the blackheads on the toilet paper, but you can really see the oil. I think that with continued use, this will definitely make a difference in the amount of black heads and your skin.

Next: Milk and Honey Face Mask

I am a lover of all things milk and honey. I think that it makes me feel like Cleopatra. Anyway, another one with two ingredients: milk and honey. Mix it together and it will look like this:

Apply to face and wait. While I am waiting I am enjoying my 4th--yes, 4th--slice of PMS pizza, and an all new episode of 'Four Weddings. Here are some thoughts that are running thru my head...

Awwh, that was a cute idea.

Dang, cuz, not you too! Argh!

I need to get my necklace cleaned.

My eyebrows need done.

This actually tastes good (the mask that is).

I'm going to apply for the Limited. (Off to the Limited site)

I want to play the pregnancy game on facebook. Wait, I never post status'...I just lurk ;)

Its like he is reading my mind...

These Target back to school commericals are funny! Denim, backpacks, denim. Ha!

I miss writing commercials. I need to take a proofreading class...I suck at that.

My ponytail weighs like 3lbs...seriously.

Screw this, I'll finish this application tomorrow.

The results: After 34 minutes, a good wash with some Cereve cleanser, a healthy dose of Este Lauder Night Serum (new for me), it was like a new face. When I rinsed it off, I could feel the difference in my skin. It was super soft and had sort of a 'glow' about it. I really got the full effect after washing it with my face wash. Wow! How can two things, mixed together, have such and impact on my skin?!?!? This will be a bi-weekly ritual for me...if I have milk in the house.

Overall: These will be in my rotation. Normally, I am pretty simple with my skin care regime but these things can definitely make a guest appearance every other week.

Breaking News!

Forget about Hurricane Irene and the flooding of lower New York, Lil' Wayne dropping the Carter IV, Beyonce is pregnant!!! Now, I didn't see the red carpet of the VMA's but its all over the web that she announced it while there. I know that baby will be *clearing my throat* precious.

Photo taken from Huffington Post

Lemon Bars: Fail!

After a hard day at work, cramps and a killer headache, I decided to soothe myself with some lemon bars. I brought this mix a while ago and couldn't wait to make it. Tonight seemed like the perfect night. It's not too hot to have the oven on, I have the time, but most importantly, I have fresh eggs in the fridge. I followed the instructions to the letter, and this is what I came up with:





How in the world did this happen?!?!? To make matters worst when I tried to scrape it up, it was like melted karamel. There was no real crust, just gooey, moist brown lumps of something that tasted lemon-like. Yeah, that's right, I tasted it. Don't look at me like that, I was curious. Honestly, I was craving them so a little burntness (is that a word?!?) wasn't going to stop me.

Sigh. I'll be back to my regularly scheduled posts soon.

The Butt Bible: Day 1

While trying on a pair of pants in Marshall's, I took a look at my rear end in the full length mirror and let's just say that there was cottage cheese everywhere! Not the kind you eat, but it was all over my butt and thighs. I couldn't believe it! My beautiful booty---GONE!




After some research, I found the 6 week program The Butt Bible on ExerciseTV and decided to give it a try. The program is set up into six segments: Lower 1,2,3 & Upper 1,2,3. After the first 10 minutes of the Lower 1 segment, I most definitely felt the burn in my hips, thighs, and butt. This is just day one, I'll update in a few to let you know if I notice any difference, which I know that I will.

So good, I saw it twice!

This week I went to see The Help twice! Each time it just got better and better! My co-workers called me weird, but I can't help it. I loved the book and I love the movie! The reason that I went to go and see it twice was because I did have the heart to tell my friends that I had already seen it two days prior, or that I had already make happy hour and movies plans with my other friend. Either way, it was a really good movie. I laughed, cried, felt a twinge of anger...I was really emotional.


If you seen it, share your thoughts!!

Music Monday: Watch the Throne

I turned on MTVJams and what is on?!?! Nothing but Jay-Z and Kanye West videos!!! I am in heaven! They are calling it Thone Day in honor of their new album. This album may just be a...dare I say it...MASTERPIECE.

Will you be buying Watch the Throne?

Difficulties...

I have 3 posts that I cannot post on here for some reason. I am not sure if its because they contain pictures or what, but blogspot isn't letting me post. I am working on fixing this because I have some really riveting stuff to share.


I am also working on:

Kelly vs. Beyonce: Which album is better?
The Help: Movie Review
Artists from Across the Pond
Favorite YouTube Channels

What A Weekend!

Hey There! This weekend was a great! Let's see where to start...a bachelorette party, boat ride, soul train line, motion sickness, dinner with my best friend, and spending time with the family! Whew!

There are very few times when things actually fall into place perfectly for me when it comes to going out on the town. I actually stepped outside of my comfort zone and tried some things that I normally wouldn't do, such as, cream eyeliner, an exotic hairstyle and believe it or not, a super short dress (despite my recent discovery of cottage cheese on my booty and upper thighs). .

First up, the cream eyeliner.

Some of you may not know this, but I'm currently obsessed with all things YouTube. After watching several videos, I decided to take the plunge and buy some cream eyeliner. Now, I have been a liquid liner girl, exclusively, for over 10 years now. I have super oily eyelids and pencil liner disappears before I walk out the door. While browsing through Target, I came across ELF's cream eyeliner for $3.00.






I had seen this on several tutorials and decided to give it a try. After examining the package and the brush that came with it, I also brought a eyeliner brush. I applied this eyeliner after slapping on some purple eyeshadow by Flirt. Of course a broad was running late. To my surprise, it was super easy to apply and went on like black velvet. I was shocked! I wasn't even trying to be precise, but it just happened that way. I love this eyeliner and would recommend it to anyone.

Next, exotic hair.

Ok, so I have this natural hair, that is currently straight. While looking at one of my favorite YouTubers (is that word?!?) I felt inspired and decided to wear my hair in something different other than a wrap or bouncy curls. I follow, through YouTube and Blog, a lovely woman named Dprincess28. She had a post on 'Date Night' hair and make up. I just used the hair part and for the most part it turned out great! I just wish that I had a camera (and time) so that I could have taken pictures. Anywoo, I used my hot curlers and some Suave hairspray (I know, bad) to set my hair. I left them in for 30 minutes, while I did my make-up and get sugared up for the evening. Next, I remove the hot curlers and parted a third of my hair. I flat twisted the one side of my hair and secured it with some bobby pins. The remaining hair, I pin curled up so that the curls would last longer. It was seriously humid outside. After I took the pin curls out, it was most definitely date worthy hair. Not to mention, it was unique. I just wish that the curls would have stayed in longer.

If you want to know more about the hair style, please check out DPrincess28 blog and YouTube Channel.

Lastly, the dress.

I went to three malls in three days and didn't end up with anything but a shirt from H&M and bill for $48 from dinner at Houlihans. I get so discouraged shopping. I feel like I am at the age where I am too old to be wearing Juniors, but not quite ready to shop at Talbot's, ya feel me. I stumbled into a store called Strawberry and found a really cute dress, that actually fit over all of this booty, hips, and thighs! I was so excited. I didn't know what to do with myself! Oh yeah, I did know. I needed some shoes to go with it. I went to Macy's and what did I find, some Beyonce shoes! I know what you are thinking, Beyonce has shoes at Macy's. No. I call these my Beyonce shoes because I could dance all night long, just like Beyonce (in my mind), and they were super cute.

I know! This post is nothing without pictures! I promise you guys, that I am working on getting a camera, and a webcam so that I can up my blogging status.

It felt so good for a night to go right for the first time and taking some steps outside the box.

Enough. Back to work in the morning. Sigh.

Top Movies...

Tonight I have some down time so I decided to watch some TV. After skimming the guide a couple of times, I finally settled on a classic: Love And Basketball. I love this movie. There is something about the actors, music, and storyline that makes it all work.



My top 3 movies:




Love and Basketball

Imitations of Life

40 Year Old Virgin

My Beloved Borders...

I thought that I had seen it on the news, but until I rode pass and seen the 'Store Closing' signs, that is the only way that I knew it was true: Borders is going out of business. Since moving to this side of town, I had the pleasure of living near a Borders and over this pass year I've grown accustomed to taking an hour out of my hectic day to just browse the selves. I loved the fact that I could get the greatest hot chocolate, ever, and relax...now its gone! All gone! Darn this recession!

Why let a good thing go to waste? I went to the store with the intentions of just browsing and not really buying. Well, one cookbook lead to another, and another, and a book on Calligraphy and a super cute address book. Sigh. I didn't mean to spend $21, but it just happened some how. There wasn't really sales going on, per say, 20% isn't that much, but I felt like if I waited then I would miss out. I mean, the place was already a mess from people riffling through, so its just a matter of time before there is nothing left on the shelves but The Unofficial Harry Potter Cookbook. Which by the way, is a real book there.

Hate of the Day...

Hate of the Day: Cramps.

No comment or explanation needed.

RIP: Amy Winehouse

Rehab...My Tears Dry on Their Own... F-Me Pumps...You Know That I'm No Good...awwh! The list can go on for like 15 more songs! From the moment that I got the burned copy of Back to Black, it was on heavy rotation. I must admit that the soulful, slightly drunken sound of Amy Winehouse's music spoke to me on so many levels. It actually peaked my interest for soul singers from across the pond and Blue-Eyed Soul.

Although the cause of her death is unknown, people are speculating drugs were involved (its not always the narcotic people). Poor Thing. And then there's the whole '27' theory that is going around. The good die young. Taken too soon.











My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Rest In Peace.

May I Suggest Mondays...

Anyone that knows me, knows that I love Mexican Food. So much so that I dedicate a whole day to it: Mexican Mondays. I have recently fell in love with Qdobas 'Craft 2'. Its the best of both worlds; a li'l of this, a li'l of that.

While sitting there enjoying my meal, which consisted of a chicken mango salad and two chicken tacos, I noticed something as I glanced around the restaurant. There were several people dining alone. There were 4 people, young professionals, dining alone. I thought that this was weird, but I had been there several times before and never noticed it until now.

For some of us single people who don't always want take out, eating out on Mondays may be the way to go. The restaurants are less crowded, so there isn't a real rush to finish your food; you don't really feel awkward because people are not gawking at you; and since there really isn't anything on TV, but Basketball Wives and Single Ladies, why not take yourself out on a date.

Date Myself Mondays has a nice ring to it...

Hate of the Day...

So, my cousin has a hate of the day post on his facebook status everyday. I decided to have a hate of the day (or week or moment series). There are not too many things that I hate, but on this HOTT, Sunday morning, I am on edge.

Hate of the day: Budget Cuts!

I watched This Week with Christiane Amanpour and got a summary of what the budget cuts mean to me and it's sickening. The government really has to reach a deal soon before this recession we are in, turns into a depression. I can see that ramiifcaitons in my own job with the HUGE cuts to Public Housing Funds. Something has to give!!!

Two pills a day to keep HIV away...

While surfing some of my favorite blogs, I came across an article about a way to prevent HIV/AIDS.

Interesting.

After doing more research, it seems as that there are two studies that prove that there is some promise to preventing HIV/AIDS. Before I say this is strictly my opinion. If a pill can actually prevent HIV/AIDS then that is great, but its also a way for people to be even more irresponsible. Sure, this can reduce the risk of HIV/AIDS, but you are putting yourself at risk for other STD's. Not to mention, nothing is ever 100%, so there still would be a risk. I am not completely against it, but in addition to these pills they should have a plan of some kind that educates people about safe sex.

Perhaps they should offer this pill to people who are at greater risk of contracting the disease, such as people with other autoimmune disorders or STD's. I don't know, this is just my opinion. We, as people, are always taking the easy way out of things.

Wrap it up, keep your legs closed, or just say no!

If you don't use it, trust me, you will lose it

While reading some of my prior posts, I realized something. There is something off about them. The words flow but not in the meaningful, colorful, liquid way that they used to. I feel like I have loss my touch when it comes to writing. I was reading part of a book that I was writing, Mr. Anderson, and it was great! Who knows, it might make a few appearance here, but my writing styles aren't the same. The creativity is gone. How do I get it back. I started to make a flyer and for the first time my mind went completely blank. Two years ago, I could make one in 10 minutes--and it had that unique flare that was a trademark of mine. There is even a clear difference in my writing style in this blog and my prior one, The Unemployed Recessionista. My grammar is horrible and my proofreading skills are even worse. My graphic design skills are lack luster, to say the least.

How did this happen?!?! How!!?!?! I am so out of touch with my creativity?! What do you do when your creativity doesn't find you?!?!

An Ode to the Gap

Today was my last official day at the Gap at Robinson. Its such a bittersweet moment for me. All of the friends that I have made there, customers I've helped, things that I've learned. Even though the stores' whole dynamic had changed, it still was a home to me. When I was down and out, they fed me, put quality clothes on my back--at a discount, but most of all they supported me--both financially and mentally. The things that I learned there prepared me for the position that I have today.

I can honestly say that Gap, Inc. is one of the best companies that I have worked for. I miss my discount already, and thinking about going back for the holidays.

Falling In Love...

It dawned on me yesterday while doing my normal Sunday routine. I woke up just like any other Sunday and debated on whether I should go to church or not. While sitting there, I tuned to a Joel Osteen's broadcast. I'm listening to the feel good biblical teachings of Joel and I really felt good about the coming week, my personal life, and any forthcomings. I felt like all of the struggles that I have been going through lately was for a reason and victory was right around the corner. The more that Joel talked, he spoke about loving the Lord. Right then and there, like an LL Cool J song, I realized, I need love. And I am not just talking about the type of love from the opposite sex, but true, unconditional, undying love.

I've been through some things in my life and I am finally at a point in my life where I can say that most of them came because of me not loving myself. No, I am not beating myself up; I am being real. Irrational decisions with men, horrible decisions with my body, drinking and smoking (excessively), the list could go on. And although I have made progress, I need love. Not some man, not a job, not the crazy notions that pop into my head for a week then slowly fade away. My spiritual journey is one that makes me feel like I am stuck in purgatory. Like, I am cheating on the real me. I can't think of myself being totally committed to the Lord because I still love my old ways.

I need to fall in love with myself and the Lord. I love myself enough to let go of the vices that hold me down, but there is still work to be done, and I know that the Lord ain't done with me yet!

Outside My Window

On a whim, I took this picture with the camera that I currently have. It’s one of those pictures that came out really well, in my opinion. I am by no means a photographer. This is a picture of an African Violet sitting on my window seal. The back drop is the view from my window. Enough said. Enjoy!

Music Review Monday: Ledisi

Happy 4th of July!

While riding to a BBQ, I really got to listen to and get the full effect of the new Ledisi album, Pieces of Me. I got it on a whim while at Target. It was a toss up between her and Beyonce, and since Run the World (Girls) irks me to no end, I decided to go with Ledisi.

Now, I have been a Ledisi fan since the first time I heard 'In the Morning (Live)' and I still to this day have 'Think of You' on my motivational CD in the car. Her neo-soul sound and great lyrics makes me feel like I am listening to 'real music', not this electronically produced stuff that we have flooding the airwaves.

Oh yeah, on to the review...Like all of her CD's you can expect to have some feel good music. I am big on lyrics with any song, but it seems like the lyrics all hit home with me. The lead single 'Pieces of Me' is the quintessential black woman narrative:

So many colors...
(I make up the woman that you see)
A good friend and lover
(Anything you want Yes I can be)
I can run the business and make time for fantasy
(These are the pieces of me)

Other songs I love: So Into You, Bravo, Coffee, Shine, BGTY (Be Good To Yourself) and I Got to Get to You. Surprisingly, I am not a fan of Stay Together, which for anyone that knows me, I LOVE Jaheim. That song just doesn't do it for me.

Overall, I brought this CD without even hearing the title track and I must say that I feel like it was well worth the $10.70 that I paid for it. 3 out of 4 stars!

$65 Later...

Yesterday, I went to get my nails done at one of the busiest nail shop in the North Hills area. After waiting for 45 minutes, finally I got to sit in the pedicure chair. While sitting there I overheard another customer talking about the Shellac polish. I had done my research this before, but I was skeptical. After the amazing pedicure, I asked the girl about her nails. She said that she really like it because it lasted longer than regular polish and it was gentle on your nails. Not to mention it was a thin gel coat, so you don't feel like you have on fake nails. I decided to give it a try! The results are below:




Sorry for the poor quality. I have to get a better camera.


The Pros:
So far, so good! When you get it done, you don't have to wait for them to dry and you don't run the risk of smudging them. If you get a manicure every week, this may save you some money. The nail technician said that he's seen a french last at least 2 weeks.

The Cons:
The cost. It's an additional $15 on top of the manicure charge; $30 all together. Also, there are limited colors that you can get. If you are like me, you want your nails and toes to match, that may not happen. No biggie, because the classic french is always an option.

After the pedicure, toe nail art, manicure, Shellac polish, and tip...the grand total was $65.

I'll update in a week to see how they are holding up.

Update: They are still holding up after 2 weeks! I just got them redone because it kinda started looking like I needed a fill and one of the nails was chipped really bad on the side. I probably could have rode it out for another week, but I wouldn't know when I could get them done again. Also, I went to a different place to get them done, and different places charge different prices, so shop around! =)

It all started with a dream and wordpress...

Originally, this blog was called 'Kaydee 360 in 365' and I used Wordpress to publish it. Well, I had serious problems trying to customize it and make it looked half way decent. The orginal post was called 'A Dream', because that is what it started with a dream. I was almost about to give up on this whole blog thing for numerous reasons, but now I feel like now, more than ever, I have alot to say. Be sure to check out the original post and the list.

Stay tuned.