Sh!t People Say to Transitioners..

No, I am not jumping on the whole '___ people say to ___' wagon. But something happened this weekend that made me have a flashback one of the YouTube videos that I have seen.

If you follow my blog then you know that I am participating in the 'Protect Ya Ends' Challenge. Well, on Saturday, I got up, went for a brisk walk, did some pilates, and decided to wash my hair. Mind you, it was 12:30 when I got into the shower and my nail appointment was at 2. After I got out of the shower it was 1:34 or so. I couldn't braid it up to put on a wig, so I was forced to slick it up into a bun. I grabbed my EcoStyler gel and went to work!

I tied it up while I drove to my appointment to meet my friend. Well, when I got there I still had the scarf on. After we chit-chatted for a while, she mentioned going to the mall to Tiffany's. Ok, fine. Now, this is where it got really real. My scarf slipped off and it she was like: We need to stop by Clair's to get you a head band or head wrap. *insert my screw face here*

It caught me completely off guard. I explained to her that I was in a challenge, which she was uninterested in, just how we would look going into Tiffany's together. We left and I looked in the mirror. There was nothing wrong with my hair. Yes, it lacked a part, or baby hairs, but it was slicked very nicely into a bun. Actually, my waves were poppin' at the top. There wasn't a hair out of place. I couldn't understand why she would say something like that. But then again, as I have said in other posts, there is no need to argue people just don't understand.

Sidebar: While in the mall, it seemed like every woman of color had natural hair! There were puffs and fro-hawks all over the place. Oh yeah, Tiffany's didn't have a problem giving excellent customer or taking credit cards from people with natural hair slicked up into buns.

Relationship Guru?! Who Me?

Without having a successful relationship in life, thus far, recently I have found myself being a relationship guru for some of my friends. It seems like everyone wants to talk to me, ask me my opinion, or spill their heart out to me. Don’t get me wrong, there are very few things that I haven’t experienced while being in a relationship. Some of the experiences I only share with certain people or when there is a need to illustrate and relate to them. Then, there are those relationship experiences that I keep to me, myself, and I.

I think that one of the main reasons why friends chose to confide in me is because of my unbiased opinion of the situations. Or it could be because I am good listener. I try to listen more than I talk. Now, there are those times when I get a little bogged down with everyone else’s problems and just want to vent about what I have going on. Which brings me to this, as of this current moment, I am very much single and celibate so I don’t have a lot of relationship baggage with me. I am comfortable with who I am. So, when people tell me about their relationship problems I’m not the friend that is jealous because one of my friends have a man and I don’t . I’m not the friend constantly telling them to leave them alone, because I have been there before and most importantly I don’t want their man for myself. Maybe it is because when I was in f’ed up relationships all of my friends were there for me and this is just payback. Whatever the reason, I’ll enjoy my time as a self-proclaimed relationship guru.