You see it all the time in movies. Two people of the opposite sex who are friends make a pact that if one of them isn't married or in a serious, committed relationship by the time they are 30, then they'll get married. It's called a Just-in: Just in case (fill-in the blank). In real life, people have a just-in, but you may not call it that. I had a just-in...or so I thought.
Perhaps I was living in a dream world, or reading into our frequent conversations way too much. Either way, I feel some type of way. Although we live hundreds of miles away from one another, he came to this area and failed to call me to meet-up. Not even on no nasty type stuff either. I thought that was odd when I heard from other people, and facebook, that he was in the area. When we spoke again, he stated that he was really busy while up here. Whatever. I thought that we were better than that.
To be continued....
Note: Originally this was going to be one long post, venting about an issue that I had with a friend. After careful consideration, I decided to break it up into three parts. I think that once I get to the end of it my feelings may have changed some and it will actually play out in real time. This is not a work of fiction--true life
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Product Review: Nivea Cream Oil Body Wash
One of the best parts of the day for me is taking a shower. It's the one time of the day when I don't have to be bothered with anyone, I can't hear my phone ring and its just some short lived me time. Since I am really into skin care, I will splurge every now and again on some good body wash. About 2 months ago, I clipped a coupon for Nivea Cream Oil Body wash. I am already a fan of the lotion, so the body wash must be good.
From the first time I used it, I could tell that it was good; It was a creamy lather, smelled good, felt moisturizing, and it was cleansing. Now most of the time when you use a body wash, you have to put on lotions and moisturizers to have soft skin, and for it to stay soft. Not with this body wash! You can forget to put on lotion and you will not be ashy--at all! Whatever they put in this stuff is good. I suggest this to anyone who is looking for a new body wash for the winter. Oh, how can I forget the price. I got the first bottle for $1.99 with a $2.00 off coupon. So even without coupon you are looking at $3.99 at participating retailers.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Spiritual Sunday
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| Photo by: Donna Kelly via Flickr |
Book Description:
Normal people are stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Many of their relationships are, at best, strained and, in most cases, just surviving. Even though we live in one of the most prosperous places on earth, normal is still living paycheck to paycheck and never getting ahead. In our oversexed world, lust, premarital sex, guilt, and shame are far more common than purity, virginity, and a healthy married sex life. And when it comes to God, the majority believe in him, but the teachings of scripture rarely make it into their everyday lives. Simply put, normal isn't working. Groeschel's WEIRD views will help you break free from the norm to lead a radically abnormal (and endlessly more fulfilling) life.
Source: Amazon
I brought the book and plan to read a chapter a night until I am done. If anyone is interested in having a discussion about the book, just comment below. I'll do a book review on it when I finish.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
There is no need to argue, people just don't understand...
Have you ever tried to express something to someone that just isn't on the same level as you? Last week while on my blissful, week-long vacation, I experimented with my natural hair. I went out brought some new conditioner, "Yes to Carrots", which was great. Also got some Shea Moisture Curl Smoothie stuff and was ready to go. With my twists out and YouTube at my beacon call, I embarked on my first natural hair style. Oh wait, first I did a bentonite clay mask treatment, which helped clarify the care and help with the detangling.
Alright, after washing, my hair wasn't exactly what I expected. I am assuming that due to my bi-weekly wash and presses caused some severe heat damage to my tresses. Having transitioned for over a year and wearing twists for three months, I thought that I would have more 'virgin' hair on my head. Instead, there were massive amounts of straight hair--everywhere. I pressed on. I decided that after looking at a couple of YouTube videos that I was going to attempt a twist and curl. Basically, twisting my hair then curling it around a rod. Simple, right?
After letting my hair air dry for 24hrs.+, the results were, well, lack luster. I had to do something with the crazy naps and curls that I had going on. The relaxed ends curled really well, but the roots were nappy with no definition. So being the creative being that I am, I attempted several things but was unsuccessful. Finally, I thought about the one thing that will save a bad hair day---a hat! I never wear hats, but I was borderline desperate. I found the grey beanie that I brought from Forever 21 and gathered the back of my hair into a twist and put it on. I left the bangs out in the front, kind of a free spirited look, with two sideburn tendrils. No too bad.
Now when I went to get my hair done on Thursday, I wore my hair like this. My hair dresser was like 'Oh you trying something new...you wanted to wear an afro...did you want to see how it would look natural?' Umh, yeah what's wrong with that? The way that she questioned me about the style just made me feel like we must not be on the same page hair wise and uncomfortable. She later went on to ask me what I did to it? What did I do to it? It was like I had an alien sitting on my hair. Now, although it was frizzy at the top, one can clearly see that it was a set of some kind...the ends of the curls were defined. I sent a picture, the one here to my friends and they saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, but then again, who knows. She later went on after she got done with it, to attempt to schedule me for normal wash and press in two weeks. I told her that I would have to get back to her. She casually stated that she had other clients and may not have the regular slot open. I said, Ok, I will be in touch.
If you are still reading this, you may be wondering what are you really talking about. First, taking a step out and attempting do something with my natural hair was BIG! (see 360 in 365 page) My friends were supportive and encouraging, but not so much from my hair dresser. Also, here in Southwestern PA, natural hair isn't as accepted as some places, like Philly. I wasn't arguing with my hair dresser about anything, but I feel like she just doesn't understand my hair journey and what I am trying to accomplish. I also think that she is looking out for herself; having a steady client shelling out $40 every other week adds up. I am trying to get away from the heat and constant manipulation of my hair which means less money for her. I just want to get it to a point where its completely natural. Perhaps, I should have been more up front with her and state that I was going back to protective styling and not getting my hair done as much. Especially since in 2012, I am attempting to be more a budget and save. There is no need to argue, people just don't understand...
Alright, after washing, my hair wasn't exactly what I expected. I am assuming that due to my bi-weekly wash and presses caused some severe heat damage to my tresses. Having transitioned for over a year and wearing twists for three months, I thought that I would have more 'virgin' hair on my head. Instead, there were massive amounts of straight hair--everywhere. I pressed on. I decided that after looking at a couple of YouTube videos that I was going to attempt a twist and curl. Basically, twisting my hair then curling it around a rod. Simple, right?
After letting my hair air dry for 24hrs.+, the results were, well, lack luster. I had to do something with the crazy naps and curls that I had going on. The relaxed ends curled really well, but the roots were nappy with no definition. So being the creative being that I am, I attempted several things but was unsuccessful. Finally, I thought about the one thing that will save a bad hair day---a hat! I never wear hats, but I was borderline desperate. I found the grey beanie that I brought from Forever 21 and gathered the back of my hair into a twist and put it on. I left the bangs out in the front, kind of a free spirited look, with two sideburn tendrils. No too bad.
Now when I went to get my hair done on Thursday, I wore my hair like this. My hair dresser was like 'Oh you trying something new...you wanted to wear an afro...did you want to see how it would look natural?' Umh, yeah what's wrong with that? The way that she questioned me about the style just made me feel like we must not be on the same page hair wise and uncomfortable. She later went on to ask me what I did to it? What did I do to it? It was like I had an alien sitting on my hair. Now, although it was frizzy at the top, one can clearly see that it was a set of some kind...the ends of the curls were defined. I sent a picture, the one here to my friends and they saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, but then again, who knows. She later went on after she got done with it, to attempt to schedule me for normal wash and press in two weeks. I told her that I would have to get back to her. She casually stated that she had other clients and may not have the regular slot open. I said, Ok, I will be in touch.
If you are still reading this, you may be wondering what are you really talking about. First, taking a step out and attempting do something with my natural hair was BIG! (see 360 in 365 page) My friends were supportive and encouraging, but not so much from my hair dresser. Also, here in Southwestern PA, natural hair isn't as accepted as some places, like Philly. I wasn't arguing with my hair dresser about anything, but I feel like she just doesn't understand my hair journey and what I am trying to accomplish. I also think that she is looking out for herself; having a steady client shelling out $40 every other week adds up. I am trying to get away from the heat and constant manipulation of my hair which means less money for her. I just want to get it to a point where its completely natural. Perhaps, I should have been more up front with her and state that I was going back to protective styling and not getting my hair done as much. Especially since in 2012, I am attempting to be more a budget and save. There is no need to argue, people just don't understand...
Friday, November 11, 2011
Late Night Rambling..
Tonight I let my cousin talk me into going to a concert. But it wasn't just any concert. It was a concert held at a sandwich shop. Yeah, you read that right. It was in the lounge above a sandwich shop. Now, I don't mind supporting local talent, but when you pop tags off of clothes, put a full face of makeup, and sweat out your $40 blowout, I would expect for it to be at an actual lounge. This concert was held at MyCity Subs and Lounge, which I believe is a front for something. What, I don't know. Aside from the [illegal] liquor that was being served, the horrible acoustics, smoke *cough* permeating your clothes and hair, and the stalkers (Yes, I had two stalkers), it was a decent night for $10. It was better than sitting at home watching the Braxtons...I think.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Bra Shopping...Sigh.
I am constantly looking for the perfect bra. I don't know what it is, or how this came to be but its an obsession of mine. Every store that I go into, I am looking...and especially for a deal. Last week, I was on a mission to return this shirt to the Gap and come right back out. Well, inbetween going to Sephora and trying on a couple of polishes, which I would like to suggest Traffic-Stopper Copper Top Coat by OPI, I came across a store called SOMA. Not quite Victoria's Secrect, but they had a 30% off sign in front. Upon walking into the store I was greated but what I like to call 'granny-panties'. Ok, no big deal, take me to the sales. I walked back and the sales woman asked me if it was the 'vanishing back' bra that brought me in. Huh? Just show me the sales. Anywoo, she showed me to the sales rack, which had a couple of bras on it, one of them being the 'vanishing back' bra that she spoke of. Now, granted I was the youngest person in the store right now; everyone else was at least 40 years plus. I took the best printed bra that I could find and tried it on. OMG! This was the best bra that I ever tried on!
Let me point out some of the best features of this bra. The material is GREAT. It's like the Victoria's Secrets Angel bra from like 4 years ago, but only with full coverage. It had just enough padding to cover up some of those embarrassing moments. It was a front closure. Conveient. The straps are adjustable, but you adjust them in the front! That's right, no more guessing if you have both of the straps in the right place. Streching your arms to do it or taking it off and adjusting. Its really supportive, for those of us that need it. Just great.
On the other hand, some of the cons of the bra is it reminds you of a sports bra from the back. I think that its because of the 'vanishing back' selling feature. Also, I am not really sure that I needed my back to be smoothed or that it really works. Ummh, the price. It was originally $50, but with all of the discounts, I ended up paying around $25. Not too bad, but not great either.
Overall, I would buy them again, still cheaper than some of the Victoria's Secret ones. Don't let the look of the store fool you. Yeah, it's for the slightly more mature crowd, but if you are looking for a good bra, go to SOMA. If you are looking for some cute panties, go elsewhere.
Website: Soma Intimates
Let me point out some of the best features of this bra. The material is GREAT. It's like the Victoria's Secrets Angel bra from like 4 years ago, but only with full coverage. It had just enough padding to cover up some of those embarrassing moments. It was a front closure. Conveient. The straps are adjustable, but you adjust them in the front! That's right, no more guessing if you have both of the straps in the right place. Streching your arms to do it or taking it off and adjusting. Its really supportive, for those of us that need it. Just great.
On the other hand, some of the cons of the bra is it reminds you of a sports bra from the back. I think that its because of the 'vanishing back' selling feature. Also, I am not really sure that I needed my back to be smoothed or that it really works. Ummh, the price. It was originally $50, but with all of the discounts, I ended up paying around $25. Not too bad, but not great either.
Overall, I would buy them again, still cheaper than some of the Victoria's Secret ones. Don't let the look of the store fool you. Yeah, it's for the slightly more mature crowd, but if you are looking for a good bra, go to SOMA. If you are looking for some cute panties, go elsewhere.
Website: Soma Intimates
Sunday, November 6, 2011
If you want to get married...
So this morning, I was talking to my best friend on phone and as usual we got on the topic of relationships and marriage. She said that she found this article If You Desire to Get Married, Here Is How to Get a Good Man. I pulled it up and read it. To my surprise it had a lot good tips, but most of which I already know, practice, or just choose to ignore.
I invite all of you to read the article and leave your thoughts. I am interested in how many [single] woman practice this. And for those of you that may be married already, did you pray for you husband?
I invite all of you to read the article and leave your thoughts. I am interested in how many [single] woman practice this. And for those of you that may be married already, did you pray for you husband?
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